My natural self...

So I have friends that say "I shouldn't have to tell you the same thing twice" in a relationship. I understand that this may be frustrating to most people (if not all), but it's not always that simple. It's not the same as telling a child to stop throwing his clothes on the floor. Some things are deeper than that. Some things may require a reminder. Here's my thought on this...and I will make it personal to me. In my last relationship, there were things about my personality that my girlfriend didn't like. Naturally, I always wanted to be my best for her according to what she liked and didn't like. However, personality traits are a lot different to me than bad habits. These are things that have grown over time based on your environment, upbringing, and experiences that have helped to make you who you are. These are things that have become "natural" for you and subconsciously you will always want to revert back to what feels natural. Because of this, I let her know many times that I may have to be reminded of certain things and that I ask for the opportunity to correct them when not done as I promised. Speaking from a man's perspective, this is all that a genuine man could ask for.

Now it goes without saying that certain commitments that are broken may be beyond forgiveness or that person may feel shouldn't have to be reminded. Everyone is entitled to their limitations and to setting their own breaking point. However, I ask that you be realist in your search for perfection. The likelihood of you discovering that one person that does everything the way you want it all the time is slim (paper-edge slim) to none.

Just my thoughts...