He NEEDS A Big Ego...

Soooooo many of my female friends and associates feel like they should not have to stroke a man's ego. You couldn't be any more wrong. Men have been raised as boys having someone catering to their ego. For all my mothers who have little boys that play sports, you above all cannot deny this. So let's think about what this means for the boy that becomes a man. A mother, whom her son always knows will have his back in life and will love him unconditional, does a particular behavior that ultimately builds him up in an attempt to help him be bigger and better than he ever thought he could be. Why wouldn't he want or expect his woman to do the same? Why wouldn't he relate a person of true and unconditional love to that behavior?

Let's talk about why this is important. When we consider what a man is suppose to be, we think of the leader, provider, and source of security. These are all things that every woman I know says they want in a man. For any man trying to be these things, you have to understand that the weight of that responsibility is not easy. You have to understand that the expectations of a man doing it is much heavier than the expectations of a woman doing the same. It doesn't make the workload of doing it any easier for either one, but the expectations are much different. With that being said, there is truth to the saying that "behind every good man is a great woman". As a man's backbone, her support to her man is to lift him up (as a backbone does) and help him in that regard to be more and achieve more than he thought possible. Where does feeding the ego fit in? For a man, it means so much for him to feel like a king at home because it gives him the strength to handle the things outside of the home that aims to tear him down.

Understand this...feeding a man's ego is not and should not be a constant thing. It should be used in tandem with CONSTRUCTIVE criticism. Stroking the ego helps a man to know that the criticism he receives is truly coming from a good place and that it isn't always all about what he is doing wrong. As a mother, there are a lot of times that she has to criticize her young son...however, that young son stays loyal to his mother for life. Hmmmm...think about that one for a moment.

Again, just my thoughts...