There's this saying I've heard several times lately..."people make time for what you want to make time for". That is one of the worst viewpoints I've ever heard.
There are many lines used by individuals in an effort to control another person. This example is one used in an effort to control and/or manipulate another person's time. To me, it is similar to a person saying "no one will love you as much as I do". It plays at controlling for a different reason, but it is still a tool for control.
Here is the fundamental flaw with this statement as I see it. People who are generally good and well loved have many things that pull at their time. People have to make time for family, for work, for personal goals, for health, for self-care activities, etc...all while having the same 24 hours day in and day out. There is virtually an infinite amount of things people want to accomplish in a finite amount of time to do those things.
People in my life will have to understand and respect that I have to spread my time and energy pretty thin. I dedicate a large amount to my family. I dedicate a large amount to my profession. I dedicate a large amount to my goals in life. I dedicate a certain amount (not nearly enough) to my need for self-care. I wish I could make everyone happy. I wish I could be available to everyone as much as they would like. I physically cannot. Moments when people TRY to control how I prioritize my time only pushes me further away from sharing any of my time with them.
The best gift you can give someone is your time. You can’t take away time spent nor can you schedule it because time is not promised. If you have someone in your life wanting your time it shouldn’t be a fight if you want theirs as well. That’s where people make time for what they want. You make time for your family, friends, work, etc. but that special someone if they mean something to you shouldn’t have to ask. They are a part of your life if you choose for them to be. People make time for what they want.
ReplyDeleteTime isn't something that is made. No one "makes" time because all time is already accounted for. It can be shifted around. I understand time being a gift for those you give it to, but it is also a responsibility that one must desiminate. If I could "make" time, then it would all be so simple.
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