All or Nothing

Them: Hey...I got some bad news I need to tell you.
Me: Okay...wassup?
Them: I can't tell you now. We will talk later.

BIGGEST PET PEEVE!!!

This scenario is something I am all too familiar with, unfortunately. I often wonder what goes on in a person's mind in those moments.

Some may say "I don't really see the big problem". Let me explain. I am the type of individual that analyzes everything. I'm also the type of individual who's mind is rarely at rest. By themselves, these traits are a blessing to me. Together in specific situations, it can be detrimental. I have the type mind that obsesses over possibilites and scenarios and "what ifs". With infinite possibilities, I can almost guarantee that I've thought of most of them twice.

Let's look at it from a different angle. Imagine a loved one called you and said they received some bad news from a doctor's appointment earlier in the day...but they would rather talk it over with you later. How would that make you feel? How tortorous and inconsiderate would that be to let you think of all the possible things they could have heard on their visit?

For me personally, half of a story isn't good enough. There are only two (2) acceptable ways to handle that for me. Tell me everything in the moment that you expressed the problem initially. Don't leave me to guess or assume just for the sake of delaying the conversation. If telling me isn't possible from the onset, then don't tell me anything until you are able to tell me everything.

At the end of the day, it's all about being considerate to other people. The amount of time spent wondering and worrying only yields time lost and unnecessary emotional strain.